Thinking about yelling about things that are not actually the listener’s fault so then consider the confessional, how I and narrative need displacement or strategy since poetry is abstract thought and narcissism boring. Hurt is personal but also interpersonal, since it is both direct and communicated. What if we wrote of communal pains, could it exist without again collapsing into essentialist (this browser’s dictionary does not include essentialist, which is surprising) generalization?
There is the option of using a plural I, of speaking of generalities through specifics (metaphor, synecdoche (this browser’s dictionary does not include synecdoche)) which allows for a more generous understanding of truth. There is also the option of using nonpersonal (this browser’s dictionary does not include nonpersonal) language (neither first, second, third, nor plural) and retaining both emotional depth and conceptual intensity.
It does not remove the desire to confess, sometimes fulfilled by diary or a friend but often more than can be sated. To say “X is Y and bad” in a way expresses that if X weren’t Y / weren’t bad then things would be ok, that if it is said some layers of reality will reflect that statement, that X then won’t be Y / will be ok. And that’s a trap, to mistake confession for miracles though they are part of its original apparatus.